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Lets open our eyes to this wild kind of world. Don’t hide your mind under that thick blanket, too afraid to face the reality outside. Life ain’t a fairy tale. There is no such thing as perfect way in doing plans. There are no such thing as editing. There are no such thing as remake. Life only happens once and that’s it. There is no undo button. No jump-to page, and no skip, pause, or rewind. Life is the real scene we have to live, whether it’s good or not, right or wrong.
Yes, people do make mistakes. No one saint like angel. But everybody have to pay what they did. They have to clean up all their own mess. It also happens in relationship. The is no such thing as perfect relationship without any problems, tears, or joys. It should be equal. Even you should be aware if it seems too perfect.
Why people are cheating? It has many reasons. Some people do that because of their bad habits that become an illness, some people do that to escape things that they can’t live up. Things that seems like dead-end but they can’t even figure what the mess is. So they prefer to take a short cut. Or another reason because they need more ‘challenge’.
Whose to blame then?? Well,, it’s everybody’s fault I guess. Whenever we see the point of view whether we see it from the cheater’s side or the victim’s. Why was that? Okay let see these scenes:
?Cheating Reason #1: Bad Habits
For this reason, in my opinion, it will VERY HARD to be healed but it can be avoided. Because it’s been in their blood. No matter what the partner does it will never enough. They need another place to make them feel needed.
?How to handle:
Well, as the partner of this type of person, if you really, really love this person and willing to sacrifice anything for your forever lasting relationship and if you feel your happiness is to be with this person, just give them a freedom. Believe me, this person LOVES you, but to his/hers affair, it’s just for fun. But, if you over cramp them, make them feel over watched, then they will absolutely leave you because they don’t find comfort to live with you. The more you give them freedom, the more they will be attached to you, but the more you cramp them, the more you will loose them. But once again, it needs extra patient.
?Cheating Reason #1: Escapes
This case usually happens with the people who is hard to express their feeling about their relationship. They feel uncomfy but they just don’t know how to tell their partner even sometimes they don’t know what makes them uncomfortable.
?How to handle:
The hardest thing is you have to realize about your relationship condition. You should know your partner better. Not that kind of knowing, but this kind of ‘knowing’ is you have to be able to feel what they really feel, listen what their heart’s saying. You don’t have to be a psychic to read your partner’s feeling, but just be a good listener will be more than enough. Throw away all the “all about me” things, but start to listen to your partner. Make them feel they’re exist and their existence is very important to you. When they know that you understand about how they really feel, they will love you even more and stop seeking for sweet escape. It’s seems easier than the case #1, but actually it’s more critical if you can’t hear their heart, when they has fallen to their affair, they are falling so deep with all their heart. Be careful then... When you start seeing the uncomfortable face or simple word from them, try to LISTEN TO THEIR HEART.
?Cheating Reason #3: The Challenger
Personally, for me this type is the hardest! Yup, it seems like a bad one. They need more challenge in their life. The more it’s challenging, the more they will satisfied.
?How to handle:
You must be a very attractive partner that will not make them feel bored. You must do crazy things with them and take a risk. You really must have an adventurer soul to keep this kind of person, otherwise, your relationship will no longer last.
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